The “Do-Over” is Your Best Move

It happened, again. I walked into our house after a pretty lousy day and was greeted by my cheery wife who just got home from an apparently really good day. I had a choice to make; allow her to continue in her joy, or bring her down to my level as misery certainly loves company. I chose the latter. No!!!

Hey, can I try that, again?” I asked. She responded with a “That’d be swell” nod and wink. After comically moonwalking out the door, I took a deep breath and reentered. “Hi, gorgeous, it’s good to be home, even better to see you!” She planted a big one on me and we laughed.

Do-overs should occur often with your kids, boss, classroom, parents, spouse, coworkers and friends. It’s what leaders do.

I’m getting better at do-overs, but it sure is humbling. (140 words)

The Crabby Cashier

Me:  “Hi, Jennifer, how’s your day going?

Her:  “Fine.”

Me:  “Cold stretch of weather, huh?”

Her:  “That’ll be $14.39.”

Me:  “Ok, enjoy your day!”

Her:   “Next.”

Every time, seriously. I buy stuff which allows her to be employed, and this is my reward?

Looking for more than a one word response, I jumped into her line Friday night (glutton for punishment, I know) and asked, “What does Christmas look like for you this year?”

Silence. A deep breath. And, then…

She told of her husband’s tragic death in April, and how challenging this Christmas will be for her and their four children. Oh, my. We spent 10 minutes (it’s a small town, not many customers) chatting about life, death, her family.

When leaving, she implored, “Don’t wait to enjoy life, to follow your dreams…we’re not promised tomorrow.”

I don’t always have the whole story. It’s easy to make assumptions, pass judgment, and even write people off. It’s not always easy to be full of grace. May you and I lead in loving without condition this holiday season…and, forevermore. (140 words)

Interestingly: 2000 years ago, a young, teenage girl became pregnant, and the rumors flew. Her fiance was confused and scared, but, stuck by her side. I might have easily dismissed her, as well, back in the day. I’m just glad I get to be on this side of that story.

No Advice for my Son

 Now that my son received his diploma, I have a boatload of advice I’d like to pass along before he ventures out on his own.

I’d like to, but, I won’t. He will succeed, fail and learn just fine on his own.

Instead of advice, I am giving him the same assurance my dad gave me:

Robbie –

There is nothing you could ever do to make me love you more.
There is nothing you could ever do to make me love you less.

I just plain love you. Always have, always will.


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My Confirmation verses still ring true to the core: “And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love. No power in the sky above or in the earth below—indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord.” Romans 8:38-39